Friday, August 24, 2012

Giving your child a sense of Self-Worth by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

                             Giving your child a sense of Self-Worth by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

Parents, by the time your child is at third grade level (for many during first grade), he or she is acutely aware of his/her worth within society. Schools can be viewed as a community, system and mini-society. Each consists of a chief ruler(s), subordinates, law, a hierarchy and a population. Within this population or mini-society your child’s worth is determined through words, actions and the attitudes of others. Not only does the teacher and classroom give your child a sense of his/her self-worth, so does the entire school (mini-society).

Our schools give children a lot more than an education; therefore, as a Parent, it is up to you to give your child a sense of self-worth; a sense of belonging; a sense of who he/she is, a sense of values as determined by those things which you demonstrate as important through your actions. 

Parents, you want to build your child’s self-worth by ensuring your child feel loved, special, needed, important and appreciated. Such can be accomplished in small ways and cost little to nothing, yet, garner huge benefits. We have listed 5 Ways for your consideration, here:

1.       Make and take time to tuck your child in bed or tuck the covers around the bed (for the child who considers him/herself too old to be tucked in); say, “I love you.”

2.       Stop and really listen to your child. As Parents we can sometimes be guilty of listening to our child with one ear and tuning the child out with the other especially when there are a million things that need our attention; inattentiveness may signal to your child that he/she is not important and if not important enough to garner your attention, perhaps no one else’s.

3.       Talk to your child and do not discount his/her feelings. We often ensure that our child’s material needs are met, do not overlook your child’s emotional needs.

4.       Allow your child to assist with chores or jobs that are considered “adult chores/jobs” (with adult supervision to begin with and as applicable). Such may be writing checks for monthly bills (provided you, the adult sign the checks) and balancing the checkbook. Stress your need for his/her assistance and the importance of the chore/job. Such also allows the child to demonstrate his/her skills and talents. As applicable, remain present and attentive!

5.       Most people like and appreciate surprises and/or gifts; they signify to the receiver that he/she is important or special.  Fix a special snack for your child/ren and serve the snack to them in individual serving containers – as your child puts in hours completing homework , relaxing and watching his/her favorite television program or engaged in his/her favorite computer activity.

Years from now, it will be the little things the child remembers and of which he/she reminisces!

Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Founder

Parents Taking Charge in Education

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