Showing posts with label Parent-School Involvement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parent-School Involvement. Show all posts

Friday, November 30, 2012

Going Back to the Basics in Education Pt. 5 of 5 - I am not able to assist my child with Homework- what other ways can I help? By Mrs. Dorothy Barron


Going Back to the Basics in Education Pt. 5 of 5 - I am not able to assist my child with Homework- what other ways can I help? By Mrs. Dorothy Barron



Link to today's Parents Taking Charge in Education YouTube Channel Video Going Back to the Basics in Education - Pt. 5 of 5 Homework Assistance, Oh My! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEqdyhZSwMk&feature=plcp


We would have been remiss in our Going Back to the Basics in Education 5 Pt. Series had we not gone to the root or where education begins – in or with the home. Understanding such, what does a Parent do when he or she realizes, “I am not able to assist my child with his/her homework.” You do not panic or throw in the towel (give up).

Not being able to assist your child/ren with homework is a dilemma many Parents face; barriers may consist of education limitations; the subject; concept or methodology; lack of patience; your work hours or schedule, limited time with the child, and/or etc.  You may not be able to assist your child/ren with homework, but there are other ways that you may be able help your child/ren with performing better and succeeding academically. We suggest a number of ways under our four (4) subtopics for your consideration:

·         Ensure that your child/ren have the tools needed to do a good job education-wise

o   Such may be things as simple as a notebook, pencil and paper

o   Materials for that special project

·         Find academic assistance; bookmark and share it

o    With the internet so full of resources and resource material, do not wait or expect your child’s teacher to supply all your child’s academic needs.

o   If you have a computer and discover exceptional academic resources, bookmark it, talk to your child’s teacher and provide the link to the teacher. Many Educators welcome quality academic resource information; perhaps and possibly, such can be incorporated into your child’s in-school learning curriculum experience or an afterschool homework program curriculum. If your PTA/PTO publishes a newsletter, consider sharing the resource with Parents (be sure to check attribution and other intellectual property guidelines).

·         Provide Support - 

o   Support your child by providing him/her with nutritious meals and snacks.

o   Find ways to continually show your child that he/she is loved, secure and important.

o   You may not be able to assist your child with his/her homework, but you can make sure that the homework your child completes is presentable and neatly done.

·         Offer Encouragement  -

o   Sometimes little extras make a difference – an item that makes a child feel special or of which the child can call his/her own has a way of motivating the child to  give his/her best or do better, academically.

o   Praise and encourage your child to do his/her best regardless of the subject and/or difficulty with the subject; sometimes, it takes time to master a skill.

o   Provide opportunities for the child to spend time doing activities of which he/she is very good at and enjoy doing; this point cannot be stressed enough. Often such serves to “de-stress” the child and re-affirm that even if he/she is not very good at one thing; he or she is very good at another or others (and can prevent the child feeling as if he/she is a failure).

o   Be an example; sometimes settling down nearby in a chair with a book or your own paperwork can give you child a sense of relevancy and keep the child grounded.

This concludes Parents Taking Charge in Education 5 Pt. Series, Going Back to the Basics in Education. Remember, little and/or basic things can often make a positive difference and impact.
Illustration by Niks

Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Founder

Parents Taking Charge in Education   http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com



E-mail: barron.dorothy@yahoo.com

Friday, January 27, 2012

Parent-School Involvement when the Relationship is not amicable between Parents by Mrs. Dorothy Barron


Parent-School Involvement when the Relationship is not amicable between Parents by Mrs. Dorothy Barron
Sometimes when Parents are separated or divorced and the relationship is not amicable between the Parents, such can pose problems for the child/ren in a number of ways; one way is within the Education realm - through the child’s studies, academic performance and/or behavior. It can and often is a difficult period for all; it is important that Parents keep the child and his/her needs center and foremost.  Consider the followings ways which may assist you with doing so:
·        There may be some issues that remain unresolved between you and your child’s mother/father. Take time to write them down. Such can assist you with separating those which may not or should not have a bearing on assisting you child with his/her education needs.

·        Anger, frustration and other emotions can evoke all type actions and likely affect decisions; remain the adult in all situations. The child is counting on the Parents to make the best and wisest decisions for him/her both in and outside the realm of education.

·        Even if you and the child’s mother/father do not get along, respect each other for the child’s sake.

·        The child generally has feelings for both Parents; be careful of what you say. Speaking disparagingly of the other Parent can make the child feel disloyal, affect your child’s behavior, education performance and can eventually harm your own relationship with your child.

·        It may be wise to inform the child’s teacher of the separation or divorce without providing the entire history; the teacher will have a basis should changes begin to occur in your child’s school performance and/or behavior.

·        Even if you are not the custodial Parent, you are still the child’s Parent with responsibilities and obligations. Get involved and /or remain involved in both your child’s life and education.

·        If animosity exists between you and the child’s mother/father and the child’s education has become a contention between you both, confer with the child’s teacher(s) to consider ways you can assist your child academically; such may lessen the contention.

·        Do not criticize the child’s mother/father’s parenting skills. Counteract by pitching in; if the custodial Parent works full-time, they do not need, nor do most appreciate criticism; they may however, need your assistance. Have you asked? If assisting the child with homework becomes a problem for the custodial Parent, inquire of the teacher about resources or find some educational sites via the Internet to assist your child. If you and the child spend time together, offer incentives for completing homework assignments, accomplishing certain homework task, getting good grades and at times for trying.

·        You might be surprised if you knew some of the doubts, concerns and fears that occur within the minds of children when separation and divorce occur- questions ranging from whether the child was responsible for the Parents split or will he/she lose one or both Parents?  Here is a suggestion for you to consider - one or both Parents may want to with the child’s assistance put together a scrapbook and keep it updated. The child will have a constant and tangible item as a reminder of your care and love, along with his/her memories.
Parents, separation and/or divorce can be a painful experience. It can be next to impossible trying to get another person to change, especially another adult; the most each of us can do is change self, encourage and influence others by example. What is important in situations involving separation and/or divorce is that you lay aside your differences and/or animosities toward each other. More than likely, the child will experience enough stress due to your separation and/or divorce; try not to add unduly to it.  How you and your child’s mother/father interact and work through issues during this time and afterward will affect your child more than you will ever know, both now and in the future.
Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Founder

Parents Taking Charge in Education   http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com



E-mail: barron.dorothy@yahoo.com


Friday, January 13, 2012

Parents are not interested in their Children’s Education by Mrs. Dorothy Barron


Parents are not interested in their Children’s Education by Mrs. Dorothy Barron
People who make a sweeping or general statement that Parents are not interested in their children’s education do not know Parents; in my experience, such has proven to be an incorrect statement.
Most Parents are interested, but some schools (teacher, staff and the administration) summarily dismiss and/or usurp Parents’ role and authority and then cite parental involvement as a major problem in Education.  Too often, school faculty and administrators fail to get to know Parents, engage them and/or work toward forming a partnership with Parents.
When I volunteered inside some schools, the constant umbrage from the school was, “Parents are not interested in their children’s education. “ I did not find such to be the case. What I did find was many Parents did not feel comfortable inside the school, did not feel welcome, did not know what would be expected or asked of them and therefore, stayed away.
Getting to know Parents and their hobbies, talents or skills and providing a means for them to showcase such goes a long way in getting Parents involved in, at and with your school.
At one school in which I served as PTA President, people thought it odd that I operated an office at the school full-time, but the education of our youth takes time and serious commitment. The position gave me the opportunity to get to know Parents, their children and sectors which served both.
One fundraiser consisted of selling barbecue meals to the community. I had served some years ago as school-business liaison and therefore did not doubt that I could get businesses and community involved in either donating and/or purchasing meals, but up a creek as to who would cook the meal unless…. To make a long story short, the chefs on the day of the fundraiser were Parents who previously would not visit the school unless called for a school conference or had never been to the school.  
The support of businesses and community;  the camaraderie between parents and the school – inclusive of the principal having assumed the role of chef for a brief period and the pride exhibited from Parents who were able to utilize their skills and make a valuable contribution to their children’s school made the fundraiser an overwhelming success in a number of ways.  It also refutes the claim that Parents are not interested in their children’s education or are not involved with their children’s school.  These Parents’ school involvement enabled the continuation of worthwhile programs and projects to their children.
The Parents involvement did not end there; a number of those same Parents showed up afterward to inquire as to how they could get involved and/or whether another similar opportunity would be presented for them to assist? 
So, and as you have seen, getting to know Parents, their hobbies, talents or skills and providing a means for them to showcase such can serve to get Parents involved in, at and with your school.

Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Founder
Parents Taking Charge in Education   http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com
E-mail: barron.dorothy@yahoo.com

Friday, August 26, 2011

School Conferences: Disciplining Your Child in the Presence of Others by Mrs. Dorothy Barron


School Conferences: Disciplining Your Child in the Presence of Others by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

Has your presence been requested by your child’s school for a conference due to your child‘s adverse behavior or action(s)?



You may or may not have foreknowledge of the reason (s) for the school conference; however, in Parents Taking Charge in Education Parental Guidebook Series 1, “How to Hold a School Conference,” one recommendation is that you request prior to the school conference the purpose and issue(s) to be discussed during the conference if not forthcoming from the school prior to the conference. Such affords you the opportunity to prepare, gather information and/or in this case, get your child’s perspective of the situation and have your child explain his/her behavior and/or action(s).

Parents, I would not presume to tell you when or how to discipline your child, but I would like to ask you to consider your actions during a school conference and the disciplining of your child due to adverse behavior or actions in the presence of others during a school conference.

Suppose you attend the school conference and learn that your child is at fault and the child’s behavior and/or action(s) totally unacceptable. As a Parent, you are displeased, embarrassed and/or angry at the child. You may even view your child’s action as a reflection of you as a Parent and/or your parenting skills. Parents, what you do at this point is crucial to all involved and parties present.

Ÿ  Be careful how you speak to your child- speak in a caring and calm voice.

Ÿ  Make sure your child knows and understands that his/her behavior and/or actions were inappropriate or incorrect.

Ÿ  Be careful of your actions. You have good intentions and may even feel it important that others in the conference realize you do not condone your child’s behavior or actions and are serious about correcting the problem, behavior and/or action. If you feel it necessary to discipline at this point, halt the conference briefly and remove you and your child to a more private place.
 

Ÿ  Do not use the situation as “tit for tat” or a means of retaliation; the child’s behavior or action(s) have embarrassed you and now, you choose to publicly embarrass the child. Consider disciplining the child later at home. Such gives both you and the child time to think about the situation and you, time to consider the best action(s) to take in rectifying the situation and/or dealing with your child.

Ÿ  If amends and/or restitution to others are necessary, do so and ensure that your child issues a sincere apology. Many Parents also issue an apology on both the child and Parent’s behalf.


I suggest you consider the above, because and from experience I have found that:

Ÿ  Educators often treat your child/ren the way you do.

Ÿ  The manner in which you handle your child and the situation speak volumes of you as a Parent, as well as your parenting skills.

Ÿ  Most children will disappoint Parents at some point and time. In this case, how you, the Parent handle the school conference publicly with your child can build or break a bond of trust and communication between you and your child. Should you allow the bond to be broken, others will use it to their advantage and you and your child’s disadvantage.

For more tips, see, by Author, Mrs. Dorothy Barron’s, Parents Taking Charge in Education Parental Mini-Guide Booklet, How to Hold a School Conference? Parents, do you also have your PTCnEd Parent- School Conference Tracker Mimi-Guide? It can assist you with keeping track of the conference and keeping the conference on track.


                                            PTCnED Parent-School Conference Tracker
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
 
Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Founder

Parents Taking Charge in Education (PTCnEd) http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com



Friday, February 25, 2011

Seven Things Parents Desire and Expect from their Children's Schools by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

Seven Things Parents Desire and Expect from their Children’s Schools by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

Parents who are effectively involved in their children’s education have certain expectations of their children’s schools. Following are at least seven things most Parents desire and expect:

Ÿ  Their children to be taught by qualified educators and that their children learn – a qualified educator is one that knows his/her curriculum subject (s), can teach the subject and students can learn from the educator. He/she challenges students, but do not overwhelm them. It is better for students to obtain a foundation in which to build upon than to cram and pass rote standardized test with little to nothing to show for after 12 to 13 or more years.
Ÿ  Rich and enriching learning experiences for their children - learning can be fun and engaging; there are a plethora of materials and resources now available from many sources.
Ÿ  Their children to feel good and confident about their learning experiences within the classroom - there should be at least one subject or activity that excites and energizes each and every child so that he/she is eager to come to school.
Ÿ  A Return on their investment (ROI) - after investing in a child’s education and sending a child to school for 12-13 years, students should exit school with skills to enable them to financially support themselves and proceed with more formal learning should they desire.
Ÿ  Safe and secure school environments - both are imperative; without either learning is adversely affected.
Ÿ  A staff and faculty that genuinely care about their children, their well-being and education – one becomes most effective with students when you show and they know that you genuinely care about them, their well-being and education.
Ÿ  A staff and faculty that welcome Parents – there are numerous ways to welcome and involve Parents within your school and the education process. When they get there, make it a pleasant experience.

As a parent, are there other things that you desire of your child/ren’s school(s)?

Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Author
Parents Taking Charge in Education: http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com
E-mail: barron.dorothy@yahoo.com 

Friday, February 4, 2011

Parent-School Conferences by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

Parent-School Conferences by Mrs. Dorothy Barron

At some point each school year, you will be invited or your presence requested at a school conference for your child or children. Do you prepare for your child’s conference(s)? Perhaps, your response is don’t I just show up? You can, but being prepared, confident and in charge assists with eliminating anxiety and frustration (excerpt from Parents Taking Charge in Education Series: How to Hold a School Conference? Written by Mrs. Dorothy Barron). 
On today, Let us discuss Parent-School Conferences; there are primarily three types:

Ø  General School Conferences- invitation for all parents to meet faculty and teachers and obtain important information about the school and your child/ren’s curriculum. Many schools offer primarily two conferences per year- one at the beginning of the school year and during the second half of the school year during Spring.
Ø  School Initiated Conference- the school (teacher, administrators and/or others) requests your presence at a meeting
Ø  Parent Initiated Conference- the Parent requests a meeting with the school.

Parent-School Conferences for some parents cause some trepidation; such to an extent is normal. Some Parents however exemplify nervousness, dread, anxiety and even anger when having to attend their child’s Parent-School Conference(s). The range of emotions may be due the following:
Ø  Some Parents have not been inside a school since graduation.
Ø  Child’s negative actions/behavior reflects the Parents’ and/or their parenting skills.    
Ø  Parent’s own personal school experience(s) as a student and the school/principal reminds the parent of his/her own past school experiences, infraction, problems, etc.
Ø  Inferiority Complex- lack of education, language barriers, socio-economic challenges
Ø  Foreign/Hostile Territory- Some parents do not feel they are part of the decision making process or have any rights when it comes to their children’s education and/or schools.
Ø  Some Parents lack understanding and knowledge of the education process and do not feel confident enough to make informed decisions about their child/ren’s education.
Ø  Interruption to Parents’ busy schedule or activities
Parents, ever attended a Parent- School conference and
Ø  left clueless; you were unclear or did not understand what had taken place
Ø   too many issues were covered as well as those you thought previously resolved
Ø  you did not remember what actions were to follow the conference
Ø  You felt inadequately prepared
I will offer three tips to assist you with Parent-School Conferences; they have been taken from Parents Taking Charge in Education Series: How to Hold a School Conference? Written by Mrs. Dorothy Barron to share with you on today:
Ø  INTRODUCE YOURSELF
Ø  Introductions are important! Parent, introduce yourself and if, in a school conference for your child, give his/her name(s). Request the name of the individual(s) you are conferencing with if they do not introduce themselves. Have you ever been in a conference only to discover you were talking to the wrong person or the individual(s) had mistaken you for someone else’s parent? I repeat; introduce yourself! (Parents Taking Charge in Education Series: How to Hold a School Conference? Written by Mrs. Dorothy Barron)
Ø   ESTABLISH THE NATURE Of THE CONFERENCE
Ø  Obtain the reason(s) for the conference and issues to be discussed prior to the conference to allow you, the parent to prepare; if, not before, certainly at the beginning of the conference. Such avoids misunderstandings and assists with keeping the school conference on track (Parents Taking Charge in Education Series: How to Hold a School Conference? Written by Mrs. Dorothy Barron).
Ø  THE KEY IS SELF-CONTROL: ISSUES  v. EMOTIONS
Ø  Losing your temper or self-control often leads to little if anything being accomplished and issues and concerns at hand, forgotten ((Parents Taking Charge in Education Series: How to Hold a School Conference? Written by Mrs. Dorothy Barron).
Stay tuned; next week you will be provided with information about some specific tools that can assist Parents with becoming more informed, knowledgeable, and educated about the education process, which can enable you to better assist, become more confident, an informed decision maker and more involved in your children’s education and/or schools.
Mrs. Dorothy Barron, Author                                                                                                   
Parents Taking Charge in Education at http://mrsdbarron.blogspot.com                                       
E-mail: barron.dorothy@yahoo.com